Sometimes you don’t just want to be fucked. You want to be split in two. You want to feel every single inch until you’re seeing stars, forgetting your own name, and clutching the sheets for dear life. It’s that primal, deep, “right there, oh fuck RIGHT THERE” feeling that ruins you for anyone else.
It’s not just about length; it’s about angles, leverage, and pure, unadulterated access. So if you’re ready to get properly ruined, here are the best positions for hitting it soul-deep.
The Science of Deep Pleasure: Understanding the G-Spot
A well-placed penis or strap-on can stimulate sensitive areas like the upper vaginal wall, the A-spot (anterior fornix erogenous zone), and even the cervix. Deep penetration can also feel incredibly emotionally intimate. But to maximize this, it helps to understand the anatomy at play—specifically, the G-spot.
What (and Where) is the G-spot?
Short for the Gräfenberg spot, the G-spot is a highly sensitive area located about two inches inside the vaginal opening on the anterior (front) upper wall, closest to your tummy.
“When you’re aroused, this ball of tissue swells and can become highly sensitive when stimulated,” explains Gigi Engle, a COSRT-certified sex and relationship psychotherapist and author of Kink Curious. “Whether via a body part or a toy, when stimulated through penetrative play, it can create a tingling effect and/or a feeling of fullness that some pleasure-seekers enjoy.”
How to Stimulate Your G-spot During Sex
The G-spot is relatively shallow (meaning it is not deep in the vagina) and generally responds best to consistent, firm pressure. Because of this, the secret sauce for stimulating the G-spot—and potentially facilitating a full-blown G-spot orgasm—is to marry shallow penetration with targeted pressure.
Sex toys with a curved shaft and a bulbous tip are excellent for stimulating this erogenous zone, as their unique shape makes it easy to maintain steady contact with the front vaginal wall. Vibrating G-spot toys will transmit powerful wavelengths deep into this erogenous zone and the surrounding clitoral network. Meanwhile, options made from heavier materials like stainless steel or glass can also increase that necessary pressure, since they naturally exert more weight than lighter silicone toys.
We’ve curated the absolute best sex positions to help both partners maximize satisfaction, hit incredible depths, and stimulate the G-spot.
8 Best Positions for Deep Penetration
1. The Flatiron
- How to do it: The receiver lies facedown on the bed with their legs straight. The giving partner lies down directly on top of them and enters them from behind.
- The Benefits: The receiver’s slightly lifted hips offer a low barrier to entry, notes Ian Kerner, PhD, a sex therapist and author of She Comes First. Additionally, this flat alignment provides an angle that leads to incredible, direct G-spot stimulation.
- Make it hotter: Interested in spicing things up? Have the giving partner whisper sexy thoughts, explicit directives, or fantasies directly into the receiver’s ear.
2. The Cowgirl
- How to do it: The receiver straddles the giver’s pelvis, lowering themselves down onto the penis or strap-on. From here, the receiver “rides” the giver—bouncing up and down, grinding backward and forward, or sliding from side to side to find the perfect angle.
- The Benefits: If you’re a receiver who likes to be in complete control of the depth, pace, and speed of penetration, Cowgirl is perfect. From this position, the receiving partner can open their legs even wider for a much deeper sensation, says Kerner. This move also provides ample, customizable access to the G-spot.
- Make it hotter: The receiver can also stimulate their own nipples or clitoris while riding for layered, over-the-top pleasure.
3. Spooning Sex
- How to do it: Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction in a “spoon” position. The receiver brings their knees up slightly, while the giving partner slides up flush against their pelvis and enters them from behind.
- The Benefits: The penetrating partner has much more leverage and structural support in this position, meaning they can move their body in a way that brings them deeper than ever, says Kerner. Plus, because it is incredibly cozy, this one is perfect for when you’re both tired but still crave intimacy.
- Make it hotter: The giver can easily wrap a hand around the receiver’s waist to stimulate their clitoris while thrusting. Clitoral stimulation combined with deeper penetration provides different points of simultaneous arousal to rapidly increase the pleasure potential.
4. The Seashell
- How to do it: The receiver lies flat on their back, raising their legs all the way up and crossing their ankles loosely behind their own head. The giver then enters them from a modified missionary position.
- The Benefits: Because the receiver’s legs are spread wide and pulled back, this move lends an extreme amount of depth to the penetration. Furthermore, the giving partner’s pelvis will naturally grind against the receiver’s clitoris with every thrust, providing effortless external stimulation.
- Make it hotter: Deep, breathless kissing can make this highly flexible position feel infinitely more intimate and intense.
5. The Lotus
- How to do it: The giving partner sits cross-legged (yoga or pretzel-style) on the bed or floor, while the receiver sits directly in their lap facing them. The receiver wraps their legs tightly around the giver’s waist, and both partners hug each other tightly for support.
- The Benefits: The Lotus position is all about total vulnerability and opening up your hips. Here, partners can get deep in more ways than one: locking eyes with each other as you approach climax creates an incredibly intense psychological and physical connection.
- Make it hotter: Incorporate deep, slow kissing or intense nipple play to drive the physical sensations over the edge.
6. The Pretzel Dip
- How to do it: The receiving partner lies down on their side. The giving partner kneels between the receiver’s thighs, straddling their bottom leg. The receiver’s top leg is then lifted to rest over one of the giver’s thighs or hips as the giver thrusts into them.
- The Benefits: With the Pretzel Dip, you get a perfect hybrid of physical and emotional depth. It offers the tight, deep penetration of Doggy Style, while still allowing you to stay completely connected through direct eye contact.
- Make it hotter: This position leaves the receiver’s pelvis completely exposed and prime for extra, manual clitoris action from the giving partner.
7. The Ballet Dancer
- How to do it: Standing up, the receiver faces their partner on one foot and wraps their lifted leg securely around the giver’s waist. The giver enters the receiver, holding onto their thigh or glutes for added support.
- The Benefits: To really make this position a standout for deep penetration, the receiver can try draping their raised leg completely over the partner’s shoulder to create an even wider opening. Even if that requires a bit too much flexibility, the receiver can still tilt their hips to play with unique, deep angles of penetration.
- Make it hotter: Press the receiver’s back up against a wall. This adds a sense of sexy, raw urgency while giving the receiver extra physical stability.
8. The Standing Wheelbarrow
- How to do it: The receiver drops onto their hands and knees; the giving partner then lifts the receiver’s lower half into the air by their pelvis. From there, the receiver grips the giver’s waist or thighs with their legs for stability.
- The Benefits: With the receiver’s legs literally locked around their partner’s hips, gravity and positioning align to create an unparalleled angle for deep, hard penetration. If the receiver’s arms get tired, they can easily modify this by resting their chest and forearms on the edge of a couch or bed.
- Make it hotter: Since both partners will be highly physically engaged in this position, use explicit dirty talk to ramp up the psychological excitement and match the intensity of the friction.
