Author: Mariam Sule

  • #TheAlphabetMafia: The 24-year-old Pansexual Who Understood Her Sexuality Through The Love Of God

    #TheAlphabetMafia: The 24-year-old Pansexual Who Understood Her Sexuality Through The Love Of God

    The Alphabet Mafia is a series dedicated to the queers of Africa. The series intends to show that the lives of queer people are just as complex as everyone else’s. Or just as basic. 


    What are your pronouns?

    She/her

    What is your sexuality?

    Pansexual 

    How old are you?

    24. 

    Where is your location?

    Lagos.  

    What would you say was the defining point for you in terms of your sexual orientation?

    I had never really felt like there was anything wrong with me or my attraction to women and trans people until when I was hospitalised in a private psychiatric hospital for schizoaffective bipolar disorder and the doctor, who was a pastor, found out about my attraction to women. He told me it was one of the causes of my mental health struggles and that I needed Jesus to fix that. 

    How did it make you feel?

    It filled me with a shame I didn’t even understand. Then I switched to my usual “you can’t shame the shameless” mode. It’s how I go through life situations that make me feel shame. After a while of approaching it that way, I stopped feeling shame. It morphed into caution. It made me want to be open about my sexuality yet hide it from people who would try to hurt me.

    Can you tell me about your last relationship?

    My last relationship was barely existent. When we met, he professed love to me. He asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes. We had sex and he ghosted me for a while. He would only reach out when he needed something. I got tired of seeking for his affection. I also realized I was struggling with being attracted to him or any other man, so I ended it. 

    What do you mean by struggling to be attracted to him? 

    I realised that with men, the attraction is so momentary; it never lasts. It’s like those childish brief crushes you have and move on. And for a long time, I forced myself to feel something beyond those crushes. To stick to it. To even fight for relationships I did not really believe in. But recently, it has become even more difficult for me to have that crush again for any guy.

    What was your awakening moment like?

    Recently, I stopped seeing my sexuality as a sin that had to be prayed away. 

    How did you get to this point? 

    The turning point for me was religious. I began to view the bible as an evolution of humans’ understanding of God and not the full picture. This allowed me to understand that many things in the bible were written from the position of human bias. So I turned my focus to Jesus and he never said my sexuality was a sin. This meant a lot to me because Jesus spoke about the things he considered sin. He said that the only commandments were to love God and to love your neighbour. I went searching for what loving God means and the scriptures I found kept saying loving God was loving people. This made me view sin from the standpoint of “does it cause harm to other people?” If the answer is no, then it isn’t a sin. My sexuality hurts no one so it is not a sin.

    What did you wish you knew before that you know now? 

    I wish I knew that I did not have to force myself to feel attraction towards men. I wish I knew how to love myself better. 

    Are you in the closet? 

    Not exactly. Many people know I am queer. 

    If you could change one thing about your life as a queer person, what would it be?

    The mix of fear and shyness I feel when I see a queer woman I am attracted to. I want to be able to shoot my shot without fear. 

    What’s one thing you’ve never done that you’d love to?

    I’d love to be in a proper relationship with a woman. I have never dated a woman. I specifically tried to date only men, mostly as a shield for my queerness. But I’ve gotten to the place where I am like “fuck it, I might as well really live this life”. 

    One misconception about the queer community you would like to debunk?

    The misconception that makes people assume that a woman is a stud because she dresses in ways people assume is masculine-presenting. 

  • Money Flow #006: This Chef Fulfilled His Dream Of Running His Own Restaurant

    Money Flow #006: This Chef Fulfilled His Dream Of Running His Own Restaurant

    Money Flow is a series intended to understand how entrepreneurs within Africa interact with money and how it affects the health of their businesses


    Tell me about your business.

    I work as a fulltime chef. It’s not the type of business that you will work today and you won’t work tomorrow. Even when you take a day off, you still have to be in the kitchen to be sure of what’s coming out of it. It’s food. It can easily be compromised. 

    What’s your financial background like?

    The family I was born into didn’t have everything at their disposal. As a child, I knew that I had to show my zeal before I could get support from anyone. I had the vision that, at a certain age, I wanted to own a restaurant. It’s crazy but I started it and at some point, they supported me. 

    Do you remember the age you had that vision?

    I was 21 at the time. 

    Do you remember when you were doing around that time? 

    I was helping someone set up his own food business. 

    What was that like?

    It was in Lagos. I didn’t think I could pull it off but we did it. The restaurant is still in business but I left to start mine.  

    Did you start your business immediately after?

    It took me a year. I was 22 at the time. 

    What was the process of starting your business-like?

    I have been a food entrepreneur for about 4 years now. Before starting my business, I worked as a kitchen staff somewhere and so far, it’s been crazy. Sometimes you win some, sometimes you lose some. Because I had experience working in the food industry, I was able to understand where a food business could go wrong and I decided that it was something I could do. I am the kind of person that is open to working with different sets of people. I did not feel judged. I worked in a restaurant as a kitchen assistant. I also worked with so many other chefs. I was able to piece everything together to start my business. I would go to different restaurants trying out their meals. I also went around Lagos looking for a good space. 

    How long did that take?

    I had someone that had space at a university but the person closed down for some unknown reasons. I spoke to the person and he believed in the vision, so he leased it to me. But in 4 months I had to leave. 

    Why?

    There was a political thing going on and they wanted me out of the school. The school is like a country on its own. No matter who I talked to nothing changed. 

    I am sorry about that. How long did it take to find a new place? 

    A month. But it took a year to build it up to the way I wanted.  

    How much capital did you have at the start of your business? 

    I had over 3 million. Once you start, you can’t go back. You have to pay rent and the electricity bill is counting. I had been saving money and at some point, I asked my family members for a loan. 

    How much does your business make monthly?

    Gross sales amount to 4 million. 

    What are some of the lessons you have learned on your journey? 

    Making mistakes in business is inevitable because if you don’t make mistakes you won’t learn. It’s not perfect. As I said, I have been in the food industry for a while before I built my own restaurant. I have been able to work with different companies and this helped me reduce the level of mistakes I was prone to making. When you are able to do that, it helps you on the journey to building something standard and consistent. When your business is doing great, you need to be extra conscious of the people around you. Because not everyone wants to see you win. Some people will try their best to bring you down. 

    How do you deal with the competition? 

    When you want to start a business, you need to do a market survey of similar businesses that are already existing. All you can do is to stand out with whatever you are doing. At this point, you might need a professional. In my case, I used a food consultant. I was never in competition with anyone because the kind of meals I make are quite different. It’s not easy to get my type of meals elsewhere and that’s why I made it available. 

    Do you have a financial advisor? 

    No, I don’t but I studied accounting in school. I have a very great knowledge on how to manage the financial aspect of a business. 

    What’s your pricing model? 

    My restaurant is a bistro. Bistro is an inexpensive restaurant that serves quality and affordable meals. Pricing isn’t hard for me because of my background in the food industry. There are some factors you need to consider before selling your meal at a particular price. First, the prices of the ingredients you use, your rent, your environment, VAT, etc. All these things need to be put into consideration before deciding on your product or service. 

    What would you say about building a business in Nigeria?

    Doing business in Nigeria is a great thing. You just need to get it right. The problem with young entrepreneurs is that they do not make enough sacrifices. They think if they have the money, they can just jump into establishing the business. You need to understand the nature of the business you want to run, you need to work with companies that are in line with what you want to establish. You need to understand all the nitty-gritty if not, you would end up doing trial and error. It’s not bad to try though. Opening a  business is risky but you can reduce the level of risks. Doing a market survey, working at a kitchen outlet to know their lapses and everything, those are prerequisites for opening a food business. Opening a business in Nigeria can be gangsta but trust me, if you get it right, the sky is your limit. 

    What has been your biggest challenge so far?

    No matter where you are, regardless of the country — the UK, United States, challenges always arrive. It can’t be perfect. If it were, there would be so many businesses still running. It’s a general thing. I think Nigeria is the best place to start a business. All you need to do is make sure you have your VAT, your LIRS, and the others. This way you won’t have problems with Government agencies, because that’s the biggest challenge you can have. 

    What financial advice do you wish you knew at the start of your business? 

    I think the journey was kind of smooth for me. Although I didn’t have all the funds I needed. Before you start your business, you should have 70% of the funds. I didn’t have that. Maybe like 40%, so it took longer than expected. 

    What’s your favorite quote about money? 

    I think with money and the right experience, you can get to wherever you need to get to.

  • #TheAlphabetMafia: The 28-Year-Old Bisexual Who Repressed Her Love For Women

    #TheAlphabetMafia: The 28-Year-Old Bisexual Who Repressed Her Love For Women

    The Alphabet Mafia is a series dedicated to the queers of Africa. The series intends to show that the lives of queer people are just as complex as everyone else’s. Or just as basic. 


    What is your sexuality?

    Bisexual.

    How old are you?

    28

    What are your pronouns?

    She/Her

    Where is your location?

    Lagos

    What is your sexuality?

    Bisexual but I’d like to say Lesbian because I have no intention of sleeping with a man now or in the future. But I have been with one so I don’t know if that makes me a bisexual or a lesbian.

    What would you say was the defining point for you in terms of your sexual orientation?

    When I decided to own my sexuality instead of ignoring it. 

    What prompted this?

    I have always liked girls but I was too scared to ever chase my desires. At a point when I was a teenager, I always wished I could ask girls out. But I never did because I felt it was wrong. 

    I had watched a Nigerian movie where someone was a lesbian. I think Olu Jacobs was the father and the Empress Njamah was the girl. Her parents were really heartbroken. I didn’t know the meaning of lesbianism but I believed it was something that would make my parents sad. I don’t like to make them sad.

    I thought only boys can like girls. So I felt like I needed to be a boy to be able to be with a girl. I would wish I was a boy so I could walk up to a girl and follow my heart. I used to dress like a boy. I was asked to stop trying to be like a boy because it was a sin and I needed to appreciate God for creating me as a woman. So I stopped for a while. I would see a beautiful lady and just think to myself, ‘she is so pretty’. But I would move on from the thought because there was nothing I could do about it. People used to say how surprised they were that I didn’t identify as a lesbian or bisexual. I would laugh and say ‘I only do men’ even though I knew that deep down, that wasn’t the truth. I felt like if I said it long enough, my feelings towards women would eventually go away.

    I settled for coping with men and being in heterosexual relationships. I decided to take charge of my life after I went through a life-threatening ordeal from my previous relationship. It was an abusive one and I began to feel really ugly and unwanted. Once I left the relationship, I felt freedom. I wanted to live for myself. So I began to follow my heart a little more. I bought posters of beautiful women. I began to admire women more openly. I knew I really wanted to be with a woman. Every time I watch a lesbian scene in a film; I always connected. I became more conscious about my decisions and made sure I did everything I wanted for myself and not out of fear. I realized I would get turned on by girls and pissed off by men. I did attempt having sex with men and I realized I just didn’t want to anymore. At first, I thought, maybe it was because I had a bad relationship with a man. However, I met a woman I liked. We spoke a lot. The first time we kissed, it was different. I knew I wasn’t going to let anything take my happiness. I was ready to be true to myself.  

    Can you tell me about your last relationship? 

    I was married to a man. It ended in tears. Literally. 

    I am so sorry about this. Can you tell me more?

    It was crazy. I settled for him. I just really wanted to be with someone. He was abusive; emotionally and eventually, physically. He also used to ask me a lot if I was a lesbian and I would say no. He was homophobic. I realized I began to pick this phobia even though I would always tell him to stop. With him, I didn’t really feel any form of intimacy during sex. It was always all over the place.  There were days I felt like I was a sex slave–like I was just there for him to do what he had to do and be done with it. I didn’t feel like my body belonged to me. I felt like my body belonged to a man.

    What do you wish you knew before that relationship that you know now?

    I wish I had been less afraid. I wish I had put myself first and followed my heart from the beginning. I wish I knew that I could be with a woman and everything would still be fine. 

    Are you religious? 

    I don’t subscribe to religion–I subscribe to love. I love God. I believe in Him. I really hope he loves me too now that I have decided to embrace who I truly am. I go to church when I don’t feel condemned. I try not to think about it too much. When I think about what I was taught as a child, I always feel condemned. Now, I am trying to get to know God for myself. I want to let go of all the things that I was taught. Sometimes in church, when topics like queerness come up, I try to block my mind and remind myself that the pastor is only human. 

    Have you ever been with a woman?

    Yes. I have been with a woman and I don’t think I ever want to be with a man again. It remains one of the most beautiful and satisfying experiences I have ever had. 

    Are you out or in the closet?

    Well, in-between. I am definitely not coming out to family or friends. If anyone suspects – good for them.  

    But you are out to friends?

    I am not particularly out to friends. I have a rainbow on some of my social media accounts. For friends who know what that means, I am happy for them. For those who don’t, I am equally happy for them. I have friends who talk about it with me but I know they know because I show up to our hangouts with a Stemme babe. I have never actually come out to my closest friends. One part is worried they would condemn me. God forbid they try to stage an intervention with my family. 

    If you could change one thing about your life as a queer person, what would it be?

    My country. I’d like to be in a country that accepts my choices and sexuality. 

    What’s an ideal country for you?

    My ideal country is one with proper humanitarian principles–where people are free to love whoever they want and be with them openly. It sucks not being able to kiss someone you love in public, not being able to share that love with your family. An ideal country should give its citizens that. 

    What’s one thing you’ve never done that you would love to do?

    I would like to kiss and love on a woman I care about in public and wherever. I hate having to hide anything. I’m obsessed about being in control and being an open book. This is one thing I can’t be open about. 

    Have you ever experienced homophobia? 

    Yes. I see it every day. I think I used to be homophobic. I was scared of myself too. I was with a homophobic person and I soon began to share his stupid ideologies. Sometimes, I wonder if his homophobia was rooted in the fact that he is attracted to men. I don’t know. 

    One misconception about the queer community you would like to debunk?

    It’s not a mental illness; neither is it a trend. It’s a way of life. 

  • Money Flow #005: How The Side-Hustle Became A Full-Time Job

    Money Flow #005: How The Side-Hustle Became A Full-Time Job

    Money Flow is a series intended to understand how entrepreneurs within Africa interact with money and how it affects the health of their businesses.  


    Tell me about your business. 

    My business is a hair company focused on making hair extensions for black hair. So we produce hair that matches black hair texture. I am talking about 4c, 4b, 3a, 3c, etc. We also produce hair modelled after straight, relaxed hair. We provide protective styling options. Our products include wigs, ponytails, and clip-ins.  My company helps black women live their best life. 

    Is your business your full-time job or side hustle?

    It’s full time. It started as a side hustle though but as we scaled, I decided to commit myself 100%. 

    Can we talk about the journey from side hustle to full-time business? 

    Before I started my business, I worked as head of digital marketing at a digital marketing agency. The experience was good for me. Because of my job, I was always interested in online communities. I tested the products my business created on one of the communities I was developing. It was a brown girl page where I posted things about black beauty, skin tips, inspiration, you know stuff like that. The company was supposed to be a side hustle. Although I knew that it was the kind of thing I wanted to spend my time doing. As we grew and demand grew, I decided I wanted to commit fully to it so I resigned from my day job. Also, I did not want to waste my employer’s time and salary. You know when you are doing something exciting, you think about it all day.  I felt like it wasn’t fair to keep going to work every day when all I cared about was my business. Plus, the business was scaling to a point where I knew it needed devotion.

    What was your financial background like? 

    My dad was a consultant and my mum was a businesswoman but financially, things weren’t stable. You know how business is; earning isn’t steady until you get to a particular level. Sometimes things are rosy and other times, things are just there. It’s why I won’t say I was born with a silver spoon. My parents were just able to afford the necessary things and at times, they had to go out of their way to afford those things. 

    What is your history with entrepreneurship?

    Funny but true, I always thought entrepreneurship was never for me. I always pictured myself working in the corporate world. My passion led me to entrepreneurship. 

    Your passion?

    I love authenticity in terms of culture. I mean, the good parts of culture and who we are as black people. I felt that it was important for us to embrace our roots. Also, I have always liked online branding, marketing, and community. It is evident in the way we have grown my business. We have a community first policy. We believe in uplifting black women so we share Do-It-Yourself tips to help black women live their most authentic life.  

    How did you get the idea for the business?

    I started by solving my own problem. I wanted to wear hairstyles that looked just like my natural hair, but there were hardly any options in the market. I created protective hairstyles for myself and a lot of people liked them, including black women living outside Nigeria. It was clear that I could scale this product by leveraging on a network of hairstylists–give them access to a global market and help them make more money.

    How much did you have at the start of the business? 

    I started with $1,000.

    How much does your business make every month?

    We currently do $20,000 – $40,000 in revenue monthly depending on the season of the year.

    Tell me about your journey so far? Lessons, mistakes, and goals. 

    I have learned so much about marketing and customer behaviour. The tea about entrepreneurship is that you learn every day. Some days are better than the others and you have to keep your head up. It would be a mistake to spend time dwelling on something that can not be changed. As an entrepreneur, you can not afford to wear your heart on your sleeve. The ultimate goal is to be one of the top brands catering to black beauty. 

    Have you ever received a grant or loan? 

    Yes. At the start of my business, I got a loan from my friend who is now my husband. He gave me $500. 

    Are you open to sharing equity?

    I am open to sharing equity with investors. That would be in line with our vision as a company. As we grow to reach more markets, we would need more money and then we would be open to sharing equity with investors. There is no rush though. When it’s time, we want to be sure that both parties have value to offer. 

    What’s your pricing structure like?

    We are an analytical company. This means we factor in the entire journey of getting the product to the customer and based on other factors, we decide how much profit we want to make on the product. 

    What would you say about doing business today in Nigeria?

    It can be better.

    How?

    We need an enabling environment. We have an infrastructural problem in this country. If we have better infrastructure, definitely things will be better. An example is the transport system. Customers could order for something in Abuja and get it the next day. If Nipost was more efficient and more affordable, we would be able to ship worldwide with them instead of these private companies that are much more expensive. Also, I would say more transparency with funds available at banks. Another thing would be businesses sharing their journeys so that people can learn. Instead of  the typical God’s grace. I know that God’s grace plays a role but there are still practical steps that people can learn from. 

    What’s the biggest challenge you face doing business in Nigeria?

    Banking and Logistics. We receive lots of payments and banks are not as friendly to small businesses as we would like. Also, managing the delivery schedule is quite difficult.

    What’s the costliest mistake you’ve ever made? 

    A photoshoot I did but I eventually didn’t use the photos because they were below standard. It was at the beginning. We did not have proper mood boards for the shoot. After the shoot, I knew that the pictures were not the kind I would like to share with my customers and community. It was costly to discard those photos but it did not fit into our brand and we could not sacrifice that for anything. 

    What financial advice do you wish you knew at the start of the business?

    Start small and always test your ideas before going full scale.

    What’s your favourite quote about money?

    The Money wey we get e no go finish o. It’s a line from a Wizkid song that I find funny and deep.

  • #TheAlphabetMafia: 25 Year-Old Bisexual Aware Of Both Worlds

    #TheAlphabetMafia: 25 Year-Old Bisexual Aware Of Both Worlds

    The Alphabet Mafia is a series dedicated to the queers of Africa. The series intends to show that the lives of queer people are just as textured as everyone else’s. Or just as basic. 


    Do you remember when your awakening happened?

    I can’t remember exactly, I just always knew that I liked women in the same or even more, intense ways than I would like a man. 

    What is your earliest memory of being bisexual?

    I can’t really remember but I think I was 12 when I kissed my cousin. It felt great but I was a child so I did not understand all the other emotions I felt that day. Now when I look back at it, I realize it was more than just kissing my cousin. It was sort of, like opening a portal. But we were caught and it became a major prayer issue in my house. A few years down the line, this cousin of mine got expelled from school for lesbianism–in her final year. After that kiss, there was another one with my friend in secondary school. I was 15 at the time. It was pretty random. We had just slightly escaped being caught for sneaking out of the hostel. I was exhausted from running so I put my head on her shoulder when we sat on her bed. After a few seconds, she asked if I was okay and I said yes. I could feel the tension between us at that moment so I raised my lips to hers and she didn’t resist. 

    Tell me about your life in relationships. 

    My first relationship with a woman was with this sweet soul, let’s call her Sandra. We used to hang out a lot and then one day we were curled up in bed together as usual and she asked if she could kiss me. I said yes. That was the beginning of a very short relationship. We didn’t really define things but she was the first girl I had sex with. My current boyfriend is bisexual. Dating a bisexual man is a way different experience. He is more conscious and aware of not only his world but mine as well.

    How did things end with Sandra? 

    We stopped talking. The distance was a factor too. 

    What do you wish you knew when you dated Sandra that you know now? 

    I wish I knew how to be more affirmative about what I want. I also wish I could love without holding back. I was holding back a lot because of fear. The fear of hellfire. Religion was messing with me a lot. I was afraid that people would not accept me because of who I chose to love. I was also worried that people were not taking me seriously. I remember talking to a friend once–when I started becoming aware, I told him I was in love with a girl. He said it was cool but also said he’d love to watch us make out. It was as if we existed for his own pleasure. It was really annoying and to date, I find men trying to put themselves in the middle of female relationships.

    What’s your closet situation like?

    I’m not sure. I think a lot of people have deduced from my social media posts that I am queer. A few people have sent messages on Twitter asking if I’m a lesbian. I think I make a statement about my sexuality in my daily life. So, let’s say I’m halfway out of the closet.

    If you could change anything about your life, what would you change? 

    I would change the homophobia of the past. It was like living in denial of self. 


  • #TheAlphabetMafia: How Do You Tell Your Boyfriend That You’re Attracted To Other Women?

    #TheAlphabetMafia: How Do You Tell Your Boyfriend That You’re Attracted To Other Women?

    The Alphabet Mafia is a series dedicated to the queers of Africa. The series intends to show that the lives of queer people are just as textured as everyone else’s. Or just as basic. 


    Do you remember how your awakening happened?

    I was in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship and one day something clicked. I started asking myself serious life questions, which led me to leave the relationship. I started researching sexuality until I discovered myself. I knew I had always found women attractive, didn’t understand why so I just pushed it aside. 

    I was in a relationship for over 2 years and from the beginning, he made me feel like he was my saviour—saving me from all my bad life choices. I met him when I was just starting to explore my sexuality. I told him about some of my experiences and he made me feel like the worst person in the world. He even succeeded in making me feel like the time I got abused sexually, I was at fault. Everything actually worked in his favour.  I had just moved to a new state; I didn’t know anyone. The friend I stayed with had to leave after NYSC so I ended up moving into his house. Under all of this, he was a good person and that’s probably why it took me 2 years to realize what was actually going on. In all of my supposed honesty with him, I could never tell him how I felt about women.

    After two years, I got invited to Lagos for an interview, this was definitely my awakening. I stayed with my friend. We didn’t do anything fancy or but little things like girls planning a hangout or simply being in a safe space made me realize I was living someone else’s life. I made sure I didn’t rush into any decision.

    I took my life apart, analyzing everything and asking serious questions. Around that time, a girl was actively hitting on me which made me feel so good. I made new friends, mostly queer but I didn’t realize then. Eventually, I broke up with him. Since then, I have been on a journey to self-discovery and it’s been fantastic.

    What do you wish you knew before that relationship? 

    I wish I knew how much of a bad bitch I am. On a more serious note, I wish I had more confidence in myself before that. It wouldn’t have taken me two years to get out of the relationship. 

    On a lighter note, do you remember your first crush?

    Yes, I do. She’s so beautiful and talented and creative and so sweet. I was in awe. I met her when I was in 100 level. She is the sweetest person I have ever met. I have always been attracted to creatives. We became friends but I never mentioned that I had a crush on her. I felt that she liked me the same way but I couldn’t talk about it because it was so foreign to me. She was the first girl that ever kissed me.

    Tell me about that kiss. 

    I went to one of these Nigerian Pentecostal universities. We were walking back from dance rehearsals one evening and having a conversation about girls kissing girls. I told her that I had never kissed a girl and she just kissed me. It was great. Sometime in December, we talked about how we both realized we were bisexual and it was a nice conversation.

    Ever dated a woman?

    Nope. I am really looking forward to my first relationship with a woman. It’s been tough identifying other queers and I don’t know how to approach the subject with women. 

    How deep in the closet are you? 

    The closet is shattered. I’ve been as verbal about my sexuality as I can be.

    Even with your parents?

    My parents would totally lose it if I told them about my sexuality. They can’t even handle me changing my hair colour. We don’t have a good relationship so I’ll just leave them in their bubble till they find out. 

    What’s one thing you would like to change about your life?

    I want to have more queer female friends. 

  • Money Flow #004: Learning About Money, From The Entrepreneur Whose App Helps People Save

    Money Flow #004: Learning About Money, From The Entrepreneur Whose App Helps People Save

    Money Flow is a series intended to understand how entrepreneurs within Africa interact with money and how it affects the health of their businesses.  


    Tell us a bit about your business

    My business is an automated savings and investment platform that helps Africans better manage their finances by making it clearer and more transparent. Our platform helps Africans save and invest automatically. We are focused on low to middle income earners who are struggling to meet up with their responsibilities and payments because they have no way of saving up. 

    What was your financial background like?

    I had a very decent, fulfilling upbringing. We had everything we needed, went to the best schools, etc. My parents paid our fees promptly, so we actually didn’t experience any financial discomfort. 

    What is your history with entrepreneurship? 

    From an observational perspective, entrepreneurship has always been around me. All my life my mom ran, and still runs, a side business. Personally, I ventured into entrepreneurship about 7 years ago, right out of university.

    How old were you when you started your current business?

    I started my first company at 19, and the current one at 22.

    Tell me about your first business.

    Our first business was an employment platform that connected employers to pre-screened job seekers. We ran that from 2014 till mid 2016 before handing it off to a different team. We also had a couple of separate products that didn’t quite work out.

    How much did you have at the start of the business and where did the money come from? 

    At the start of our first business we had $25,000 in seed funding from an investor. And that pretty much kickstarted everything for us.

    What lessons have you learned on the journey so far?

    Do work you care about.

    Have you ever received a grant or loan? 

    No, I haven’t, but I know that for most of those applications, the key is a great application.

    How do you deal with the competition?

    Honestly, mine and my co founders’ strategy has always been to bullishly execute without paying too much mind to competition. I don’t think the goal is a monopoly, so I just work single-mindedly towards my goal and my vision regardless of what anyone else is doing. The standard to beat is the one set by me.

    What do you know about equity?

    Quite a bit actually, haha. I’ll say this though, you don’t want to have too much equity, but you DEFINITELY don’t want to have too little. Any other thing, you’ll have to pay for a consultation with me.

    How do you decide on the pricing of your products and services?

    A number of factors including the cost of producing that product or service, the problem my product or service solving, the alternatives that exist and their costs, and the perceived value of the product or service.

    What would you say about doing business today in Nigeria?

    It’s incredibly challenging because Nigeria is a tough place for anything. The lack of economic stability, reduced spending power, incredibly volatile regulatory policies all contribute to the challenging business landscape in Nigeria.

    What’s the biggest challenge you face doing business in Nigeria?

    First, funding. It’s stupid hard to get funding as a startup in Nigeria. I believe it’s a bit easier now, but when we started, it was more complex. And then being a black woman, the regular-degular mix of unmistakable sexism and racism–from the international folks, can make it really hard to just keep moving. But it’s rewarding to see the results of all that work.

    What financial advice do you wish you knew at the start of the business?

    Not really financial, but overarching business advice. Hire slowly, and only when there will be a perceptible addition to the bottom line, whether as a direct or indirect product of creating this new position.

    What’s your favourite quote about money?

    Money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver. –Ayn Rand

  • #TheAlphabetMafia: Inside The Mind Of A Young, Gay Man In Lagos

    #TheAlphabetMafia: Inside The Mind Of A Young, Gay Man In Lagos

    The Alphabet Mafia is a series dedicated to the queers of Africa. The series intends to show that the lives of queer people are just as textured as everyone else’s. Or just as basic. 


    Can you tell me about your last relationship?

    I was too young and inexperienced. I gave my all to the person but he didn’t even show me the slightest sign of love. I wasn’t thinking. The person knew I was naive and took advantage too.  But I woke up; I read and I made friends and I found out I was with the wrong person.

    What do you wish you knew before that relationship that you know now?

    Love isn’t just the words, ‘I love you’. Most times, you don’t even have to say it. You just feel it. And also to always stay protected. 

    How deep in the closet are you? 

    I think I just opened the door and I’m halfway out.

    If you could change one thing about your life as a queer person, what would it be?

    My temper. I get angry easily when it comes to my sexuality because I get nightmares. I have had trauma that makes me think I might never be happy with my sexuality.

    I am sorry about that. Have you ever experienced homophobia? 

    Plenty times. I used to be very effeminate. I thought secondary school was tough until I got to University. I tore myself to bits trying to appear manly. I didn’t really change, I just learnt how to hide my effeminate side perfectly. In my mind, I still gesticulate and stuff. 

    Can you tell me about a particular experience?

    OK, so I was in SS1 or SS2 during the era of 2go. I liked one of my classmates. I opened a female account, got his username and added him to my 2go list. I was always texting him. One day, I slipped and he found out it was me. He told everyone at school. After school, one day, these boys waited for me and beat me up. I couldn’t tell anyone at home or in school how I got the bruises so I lied that I was robbed. For days, they would collect my money after school and toss me around while laughing. I started hiding my money better and got used to the bullying. They eventually got tired.

    I am so sorry about the abuse. Did that change anything about you?

    Yeah. I grew tougher. I worked out. I used to have muscles before but it’s thicker now. After dealing with enough homophobic rubbish, I took a break. Let a fool try me. 

    Energy! Here for it! Anything you want to tell baby gays?

    Keep them homophobes whining. Let them cry. Tears and wailing are only giving us more visibility. We weren’t this loud last year. Let’s be louder this year and the year after that.

    One misconception about the queer community you would like to debunk?

    Promiscuity. For someone that had to man up, I had to be with a lot of straight people to learn. One thing I learnt about them is that sex is their ultimate goal. You are a champion if you can talk about how you’ve had sex with a million girls. But somehow, the promiscuous person is the queer person who has only just discovered himself and is overwhelmed by how he is comfortable with sex, even though he lived his life never getting tutored about queer sex. 

  • Money Flow #003: The Risky Businesswoman Surviving The Hair Business

    Money Flow #003: The Risky Businesswoman Surviving The Hair Business

    Money Flow is a series intended to understand how entrepreneurs within Africa interact with money and how it affects the health of their businesses.  


    Tell me about your business. 

    My business is a full-time job but also a side hustle. Let me explain. So my business is the dream, it’s the future. It’s my future. But to fund the dream, I need a 9 – 5 because there is the security of a paycheck at the end of the month, even though it is not enough. You know how business is; it’s great when it’s great. When it isn’t great, you are just going to be suffering. 

    What exactly does your business do?

    My business provides goods–weaves and extensions and services–wig making, hair laundry, coloring, and styling, to women in Nigeria and beyond. I cater to women of all age groups. The goal is to help more women get creative with their looks.

    How long have you been in business?

    3 years plus. 

    What was your financial background like? 

    I was definitely not born with a silver spoon. I was born with an okay-enough spoon to get me through, private primary school, government secondary school, one private university, another government University. So I can say my spoon was pretty bronze. My financial background was steady but rocky sometimes. My mum worked at this job which was great but it was a contract job. When there was no contract, no money came. My dad had a thing he was doing. It was personal business. It was a lab thing. It wasn’t great but it was good.

    What’s your history with entrepreneurship? 

    Listen, every time I tell this story, I laugh because it’s a funny one. The first time I was exposed to entrepreneurship, my mum had this poultry farm when I had just finished secondary school. We had land that was not in use at the time. My mum is a business woman. Actually, I was exposed to entrepreneurship from the womb. My mum has been selling stuff since I remember. There is no business you can name that my mother has not done. She has done it all.

    So yeah, she thought the land was wasting and we decided to start her own poultry farm. She started with 100 birds, I think they were broilers. And when it was time to sell it off, it became a problem. My mother would want to use us as free laborers. I mean, my brother would be by the side of the road shouting, “Buy your chicken” during festive periods. I just knew it wasn’t for me. My mother would ask me to do it and I would tell her I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t sell anything. Eventually, she had to hire people because it wasn’t working for us at all. That was my first exposure to entrepreneurship and I was like nope, not for me

    But let me tell you the funny story of how I got into the business. I was at 200 level in university. My great grandmother had just died. So I went to Anambra for this burial. While I was there, I asked my mother for money. She was the one we always asked for money because she made more money. They had sent me money before I came and I spent a week in Anambra for the burial. When my mother told my father that I was asking for money, he was like, “ah ahn, did we not just give her money last week?” She now rubbed his back and said, “Two more years and we will never have to give her money again.” I was standing just at the door to their room, overhearing this conversation and thinking so these people are planning to cut me off after I graduate. It hit me that I was going to be independent. 

    I started thinking of what would happen when I graduate and I want to buy things for myself and can’t afford it because my parents have cut me off. I was like nopes, we can’t have that. I started thinking of something I could do for myself. Something to fall back to–a bedrock. I thought about what I was good at. I wanted a hobby that would earn me money. I knew I was good at picking out nice hair. Even if I bought a weave for 20k, the way I would carry it, someone would ask if I had bought it for double the price. I know how many people I plugged to my plug when I was in Benin. So I thought, man, I could buy hair to sell. The business started as a poverty alleviation thing. When people ask, I say I got into entrepreneurship when I was trying to not be poor. I won’t lie to you, it wasn’t a passion thing. Even though I love hair, I didn’t start my business because selling hair is sweet. No, I started because I didn’t want to be hungry. I knew if my parents cut me off, I wouldn’t have anything, I started the business with buying and selling weaves which eventually became me making wigs myself. I got all the wig tools. I also ship in wig tools.

    How much did you use to start your business?

    When I had the plan, I told everyone about it but it seemed like a dream that would never come true. At 300 level, something happened. It was the year of MMM. When I knew about it, it wasn’t popular. There was a girl in my hostel. She had graduated from school a while ago. She was another entrepreneur that inspired me a lot. She used to make cakes. She made a lot of money from making cakes. She bought a car, a house and now she owns a bake shop. She doesn’t even know but I stan her. I was in her room one day and she was like ah, they’ve paid me. I asked her who was paying her, that I need them to pay me too. She gave me the MMM gist. Do you see how people are cashing out from Piggyvest referrals? That was me with MMM. I made money off that shit. I started putting money in MMM by April or May and by June I was telling people about it. I earned more on referrals. So at the start of my business, I had 100k but I did not put it all into my business because I needed to go to Lagos. I did not want the person I bought hair from in Benin to be my supplier because his hair was expensive. I didn’t want to start off expensive because nobody would buy it.

    I had a boyfriend at the time who helped, he was in Lagos, he went to the market with me. The 100k also included getting a hotel in Lagos for two nights plus transportation. He added about 50k so I had 150k at the start of my business

    Did you lose money to MMM?

    Yup, about 200k in December 2016.

    How did this affect you?

    It was bad, but I had a business. It wasn’t necessarily my business money I lost but it affected me. Also, indirectly because my boyfriend, at the time owed the business about 70k that he lost to MMM. I suffered that loss.

    What is your pricing model like?

    For my service, I monetize my effort, stress and time. For my products, I make sure I make a profit of at least N5000 on every sale. Also depending on how valuable my product is, I put my profit at any amount.

    How has the journey been so far?

    My entrepreneurial journey has been a lot. I did not know much. I was taking shit as it came. After sourcing for a supplier at Balogun market, I would buy hair from her to sell. After three months, I found out she was ripping me off. The hair I bought from her was too cheap for her to sell to me at that rate. It was crazy. Let’s say what I would buy for N5 is supposed to be sold at N1.50k but she knew I was new. Also, I came to her shop with a man. Don’t ever go anywhere to buy hair and carry your boyfriend. She took advantage of me. I make it a point of duty to make a profit of N5000 on any hair sale except during discount sales. Sales are great.

    If you used to get two customers before, during sales you get 10. I think, in retrospect, I should have done proper research.  I should have done feasibility studies, you know, proper business things before starting. But as I said, I started it to evade poverty. If you start a business to run from poverty, you will probably follow my footsteps. Also, I was so timid. Someone would buy something from me and come back to tell me it’s spoilt. It didn’t even have to spoil. They probably won’t brush the hair well but then they’d call me to cuss me out. Next thing you know I’m crying and asking them to send the hair back, not anymore. I find that people take advantage of refunds so now I don’t do it. I find other ways to compensate.

    What other ways?

    Other ways like a good discount on their next order. I could throw in a free closure or free service like wigging, delivery, whatever.

    Okay…

    But whatever you buy from me now cannot spoil. If it’s something that can spoil, I would let you know. I give my customers terms and conditions at the point of sale. I learned that people really just want to be satisfied. A satisfied customer does way more for you than any advertisement. I used to sell hair at my old school. It was a private school with rich kids. That really helped me. It was a huge platform for me. If I didn’t have it, Ò pa ri o. If I sell weaves to 2 girls in a Faculty as big as Law in that school, people would ask them where they got their hair from and then they would put me on.

    My greatest achievement is that I am still in business after all this time and obstacles. The hair business is very capital intensive. If you don’t have money, you can’t do it. That’s the truth. If you don’t have money, you will start with low-quality hair which is great because it’s cheap and people will buy it. But they will never come back because that first sale would color their minds about your brand. Another achievement is registering my business, getting a corporate account, and applying for funding. I am in the works of getting a POS now. I would have never imagined that I would get here so yay me.

    Have you ever received a grant or loan?

    Nope. I have been offered a loan once. The thing is the person was proposing a partnership. I have a problem with partnerships. I think it stems from how my business started. I told you I was in a relationship and he added some money to my capital. That made him think he was a partner and he started telling me that he needs to be making a profit. So I run away from partnerships. If you want to invest in my business, I want something like a loan that I could pay off. Proposing a partnership gets a no from me. I’m one of those people who would never publicly trade their company or sell shares to anyone. It’s solely mine. I built this thing on my hard work, my blood, my sweat, my sleepless nights, my almost failing exams. So, no partnerships

    How do you deal with competition? 

    It’s hard. I tell myself what’s mine is mine. Before it used to suck, especially when my friends buy hair from someone else. I would feel like dying. But now, I’m like who go buy hair from me go buy. I step up my marketing strategy on social media. Social media is my shop. I try to reach out to more customers and all. But honestly, it will come to you. Do the work you are supposed to do and hope it comes to you.

    Do you have financial advisors? 

    My financial advisors are my best friends. It’s funny because I can’t afford a real one right now. But when I need to make an expensive decision, I let them know and they give me great advice. At the end of last year, I wanted to buy a really expensive phone that worried my friends because it wasn’t necessarily a wise financial decision to make. But I knew it was going to help with my work. I’m on my phone 24 hours a day so I need a phone with optimized speed, battery life, and camera. I needed the best of the best. Besides running my business online, my 9 – 5 requires me to be online. It’s content creation so I have to be online. A lot of my friends advised me against it. They suggested something just as good but cheaper. My brain wasn’t agreeing with what they were saying. So I found a way around getting the phone.

    How?

    I got a phone from the US. My cousin helped me buy it on credit. They give you a credit card and you have to pay it off over a specific time. That way I didn’t have to spend all that money at once. I am gradually paying it off.

    What would you say about doing business in Nigeria?

    It is really really hard.

    Honestly, if you have an alternative, don’t do it. A lot of people see me and think it’s glamorous. I have helped so many women get into the hair business but I also know three who have stopped because dem no fit. Even me, I no fit. I honestly don’t know how I’m still here but thank God I guess. Doing business in Nigeria is a shitshow. Logistics services will fuck you up. I saw a tweet that said, “Vendors propose, Delivery people dispose”. It’s so true. I sent out a wig on Wednesday. By Thursday morning, the dispatch rider called the customer to say his bike had some faults but he would still deliver. That package didn’t get delivered till Friday. I was just frantically texting him. Business in Nigeria makes you a crazy person. 

    What is your biggest challenge in Business? 

    Logistics. Logistics. Logistics. Eventually, when I have left this ghetto 9-5 behind, my goal is to have a logistics company that works for only me. I have cut the one I am working with off so many times and threatened to stop doing business with them. But I still use them because they are the best out of the rest. And that sucks. Also, scammers. So because my business is online, I suffer a lot. They are people who have money and want to buy but they ask, “is there pay on delivery” and I say no. And they say, “sorry, I have been scammed before”. There is no convincing them. I apologize and give them my word, that I would not take their money and run. It doesn’t change their mind though. Out of 10 people like this, only one took a chance on me and didn’t regret it. Scammers ruin things. Nobody wants to be giving someone on the internet over 100k to buy a wig and get scammed

    Your costliest mistake? 

    One time, I did a waybill with one transport company I won’t mention. They said the bus had an accident and it wasn’t insured. Then, I used to give the drivers the packages to deliver. I didn’t register it or insure it. It was over 200k but my luck was that this person was an understanding woman, so we split the bill 50/50. It had happened before. The customer was trying out a new product I had just bought and it wasn’t great. So she told me she understood that I didn’t produce the hair so she proposed splitting the bill. Some clients are angels. I almost lost over 200k but that woman split the bill with me.

    Something you wish you knew at the start?

    The first thing is to document everything. I didn’t do that before but now I have records. Another thing is having a rate card. Especially if you are providing a service like making wigs, hair laundry, treatment, etc. I didn’t have a rate card until this year. People would ask me to make wigs for them and because of friendship, I would accept N2000 from them, never again. If I could go back to 2016, I will tell myself, girl you better have a rate card. It’s not negotiable. It’s your service. It’s not like a product you are buying and reselling. You can bargain the price of my products but not my service. A client once asked to make their wig for free. I said I never work for free. Another advice; separate your personal finances from your business finances. Another advice I would give is to add the price of shipping to the product and then declare shipping free.

    What’s your favorite quote about money?

    ‘Money gives you the power to do whatever you want to do. I like the idea of being in complete control of my life.’ by Louise Mensch That’s me. I hate being at the mercy of anyone. So if my money can buy it, I will buy it. I love being able to control things with funds that’s why I love that quote

  • #TheAlphabetMafia: Being Open But Living In Constant Fear Is This 20-year-old’s Struggle

    #TheAlphabetMafia: Being Open But Living In Constant Fear Is This 20-year-old’s Struggle

    The Alphabet Mafia is a series dedicated to the queers of Africa. The series intends to show that the lives of queer people are just as complex as everyone else’s. Or just as basic.


    When did you get curious about your sexuality?

    I started questioning my sexuality around April 2018. I recall one of my friends tried to set me up with one of his friends, who mentioned she was bisexual and wanted to explore. We started talking and she told me she was 16. I was 18 turning 19 at the time so I stopped talking to her. I knew I had always been somewhat fascinated by girls and their bodies but I didn’t think anything of it.

    I just always said I was appreciating beauty. I feel like a part of me knew but I wasn’t willing to accept it. I didn’t start identifying as bisexual until the beginning of 2019.

    What made you start identifying as bisexual?

    In 2019, I was like wait o. This thing might be more than just appreciating beauty. Even when I kissed my family friend in primary school, I didn’t think it was a big deal. I knew I wanted to kiss her, but it didn’t even cross my mind that I liked girls. Anyways, I met this girl. She messaged me on Twitter and we started talking. During that time, I was seeing another guy. He knew I was questioning my sexuality and he knew about the girl. He knew when we started talking but I don’t think I told him when she came to see me. Nothing happened though because I was being a chicken. I used the fact that I was seeing someone else as an excuse, which was silly because I invited her over and I knew what she wanted. 

    Do you remember how you felt that day? 

    I was excited, but also anxious. I was thinking “oh god, don’t let anybody enter this room“.

    We ended up just watching NatGeo Wild and talking throughout the day. There was a documentary on polar bears or something like that. As God will have it, the guy ended things with me during that same period. So I hit her up again like “yo, come through.” And she came over again. This time, we kissed. Nothing else. She is really pretty, very attractive. But the real awakening happened at an event in October.

    Tell me about it. 

    I was hanging out with a guy I met off twitter. We were having a normal conversation and then his wife came. And I was like oh my gosh, how is someone so perfect? Long story short, I had a crush on his wife. I was talking to him normally and everything was okay but when his wife came, I couldn’t stay there anymore. I had to excuse myself. I saw his wife at another event and I turned in the opposite direction. I was contemplating whether or not to talk to her. I was wondering if she would remember me or not. I would make a case for talking to her and then counter it. I don’t even want to say what I used to think when I saw his wife. 

    Tell me. 

    Ah, I can’t say it o.  

    Okay. Tell me about your first kiss.

    My first kiss was with a girl. She was my family friend. We used to play mummy and daddy. And now that I think about it, I think we were a bit too grown for that. She was younger than I was with a year in age and school.

    How old and what class?

    I feel like primary 4 is too old for that. I was 8 or so and she was in primary 3. I can’t really remember the exact time log. But I know we used to make out. Should I call it make out? We were children. We would kiss each other, touch each other, stuff like that. It did not feel like anything serious to me. I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong maybe a bit weird, but not wrong.

    This same girl, I remember I told someone to dare me to kiss her. I wanted to kiss her but I felt like it would be weird to just go and kiss someone. But when they dared me, I went to her and I said they dared me to kiss you and she said okay.

    Have you ever dated a girl?

    I have never been in a relationship with a girl. I almost dated one last year. It didn’t happen because I didn’t like her as much as I thought. I have been out with girls but not so much. I am still new in the game so I don’t have a lot of experience. I currently have feelings for one of my friends. I told her about it but we haven’t discussed it because I don’t want to bring it up and bother her. If she wants to discuss it, we will. If not, I will let it slide. 

    How deep in the closet are you?

    I’m out but also not out. Funny story, the day I came out, I called my sister crying on the phone and we were having a debate on twitter about LGBTQ pride. This was 2019. We were discussing whether or not people should celebrate pride in Nigeria and some people voiced their valid concerns. I did not say anything but I was concerned that the streets won’t be safe. Queers were accusing allies that rejected the idea of an open pride in Nigeria of being fake allies.

    In my head, I was thinking it’s not fair to say stuff like that to allies because a lot of people that are out now, first hid under the cover of allyship. I felt attacked by it because I was an ally that was also bisexual. I had never said it to anybody. I hadn’t even said it to myself but I knew that I liked girls and boys. Eventually, I told myself, Auntie you like girls, just accept it. Obviously girls are attracted to me too because I’m a spice but that is beside the point.

    When you called your sister, what did she say? 

    I can’t remember what exactly happened. I told her that I’m bisexual and I was crying. She said, “ahan, is that why you’re crying?” She told me to calm down, that it’s not a big deal. Unrelated, but there was a time she sent me something for LGBTQ people. I think it was a scholarship thing and I was like, “but I’m not queer na” and she said okay.

    She knew I was questioning my sexuality so it’s not like she just sent it out of the blue. On the day of the Pride conversation, I came out to myself. I’m not sure if I came out to my sister first or a random stranger online. I replied to the person’s tweet and then messaged them because I didn’t want to talk about it on the timeline. Next thing, I was telling them I’m bisexual. 

    How did that feel for you?

    Surprisingly freeing. Oh, before the whole calling my sister and crying day, I had started saying I was queer, but I mostly just said I was bi-curious. Now, I am out on the internet. My brother found out from twitter. Offline, I am out among my friends. One of my roommates knows I’m bisexual. We were having a conversation one day and it slipped. She went oh okay and moved on. There are days I wish I never came out, even though I like being out. The whole thing is conflicting sometimes. 

    Why do you wish you never came out?

    It is kind of scary. It is freeing, but also scary.

    I get that. If you could change anything about your life, what would it be?

    I would be straight. It’s not like I don’t like liking girls. It’s just constant fear. I live in fear. What if someone that isn’t meant to find out finds out? What if I’m attacked?

    Okay, so yesterday, one of my friends came to see me. A girl I like. Anytime she touched me, I got super paranoid, even though she wasn’t being sexual. I don’t think she noticed it because I tried to mask it. In my head, I was thinking what if one of us mistakenly touches the other person in a way the people around us found inappropriate. We were alone but I felt like we were being watched. And when she left, I started overthinking and crying. I cried for a long time.

    I’m so sorry. Do you know why you were so upset?

    Everything was just a lot for me that day. Like this is someone I like. She is also queer. Sometimes, I get paranoid in situations like that and start thinking of things that will probably not happen. It sucks. I was just really upset that I can’t just live in peace. That wasn’t the first time it happened. Sometime last year, I had a dream that my mum found out about my sexuality and she disowned me. I spent most of that day crying. I don’t like things like that.

    When I tell my friends, they say don’t care about what people say. It’s so easy to say don’t care about what people say. Do you think I want to care? I don’t but my fears are valid. My queer friends get it though. Also before I came out, I used to wonder why my queer friends were so paranoid but now I get it. The reality didn’t dawn on me until I accepted myself. It sucks how we can’t live in peace. When I’m with a girl I’m attracted to, I feel reluctant to hug her. When I do I would think what if someone thinks we are lesbians and attacks us. There’s a lot of what-ifs. If I could change one thing about my life, I wouldn’t be queer.

    Have you ever experienced homophobia?

    I have obviously had people say homophobic rubbish around me like in school but I’ve never had homophobia directed at me.

  • Money Flow #002: The Solopreneur Securing The Bag At All Cost

    Money Flow #002: The Solopreneur Securing The Bag At All Cost

    Money Flow is a series intended to understand how entrepreneurs within Africa interact with money and how it affects the health of their businesses.  


    Can you give me a brief summary of your business?

    I run an online natural hair and skincare product manufacturing business based in Lagos. We deliver nationwide and worldwide. Our products are handmade and all natural. We make soaps, body creams, hair creams, body oils, hair oils, facial masks, body scrub and many more from natural derivatives in Nigeria. 

    How long have you been in business?

    5 years.

    What was growing up like financially? 

    I grew up in an okay household. We were your average, middle class family. Well, until my mum lost her banking job and we fell into deep penury. I think that’s when I learned how to save money because no one was giving me pocket money anymore. I started depending on myself at 19. I learnt how to hustle and save from very small money. Till today, I don’t know how I did that. 

    What did hustle mean for you? 

    Hustling meant finding money anywhere where e dey. At a time, I was working ushering jobs. I made hair at some point even though I wasn’t so good at it. I was running a mobile hair service where I would come to your house and treat your natural hair.

    I did anything and everything I knew I was good at during that time to get money.

    Things were really hard. It was so bad that my dad would have to go to a party to get us lunch or dinner for the day. It is surprising that I didn’t do sex work because I was really desperate. Well, I didn’t because I couldn’t.  

    Now?

    We are still there but things are much better. I still try to save a lot and that helps. I hope to start investing too.  

    How much did you have at the start of your business? 

    One kobo I did not have. I used to braid people’s hair. It was home service so the price depended on what they wanted to do to their hair and their locations. The highest I ever got was N6000 — transportation included. A customer of mine whose hair I was to braid asked me for coconut oil. So I went to my supplier to get some.  

    You had a supplier at that time?

    She wasn’t a supplier then. She was just someone I knew sold the things I needed to work but now, she is one of my suppliers. 

    Okay. So…

    I went to my supplier to get the coconut oil. I bought that bottle on credit. I paid the woman after my customer paid me. There was about N200 gain on the transaction. That was how I started. She kept buying and soon enough other people started asking for coconut oil. And I would collect money, buy, brand and give to them.

    What would you say you’ve learned so far?

    I am still learning on this entrepreneurial journey. It is still a long, hard, complicated journey for me. I know I am still making mistakes. I just stopped documenting my orders. 

    Hmmm. Can you say what your average sales and expenses total is in a month?

    Honestly, I can’t say because I stopped taking records. I know it varies with each month. Some months are really high, others low. For my expenses, I don’t restock supplies every month. Just when my products finish. I can’t say how much either but I will put this in mind going forward. I know it’s bad but I hope I am able to get someone to help me manage my finances better, soon. Right now, things are rocky. I know I am supposed to pay myself a certain salary but I am just letting things go with the flow. I don’t mess with my business money though. I always keep a certain amount for whatever I need to restock and new supplies. 

    Can you give me a figure? 

    I try not to have nothing less than 100k saved in an account strictly for buying supplies. I want to get to a point where everything is documented accurately and I can pay myself a salary. A point where I can separate business from personal efficiently. That’s my goal. I am terrible with numbers. They scare me. Also school and side hustle and every other thing has gotten in the way. 

    Tell me about school and side hustle.

    My school was in a chill city. By chill, I mean when I was in school, I felt more relaxed. I live in Lagos so whenever I am in Lagos, I would have plenty of ideas on how to move my business forward. But in school, I was less bothered about my business. I would still market my products online but there was no motivation to push harder. The only drive was the fact that not selling products meant starvation. But in Lagos, my hustle spirit returns. I guess the environmental factors affected how I saw my business and how I treated it. 

    What environmental factors?

    Lagos has this spirit of hustle in it. By 5 in the morning, you can hear the city working but the city my school was in is the complete opposite.

    How did you cope?

    It was difficult because I could be having a class and a customer would be calling me about their package. Other times, it would be network or light issues so I wouldn’t be able to work for like three days. I would be thinking of alternatives like going to a friend’s house to charge with their generator. It was just very somehow but I pulled through. If I had to pick, I would definitely not manage business and school together. I am not great at multitasking. I know they said women are multitaskers but it’s not for me. But you know how it is in Nigeria, gotta hustle. 

    Is there anything different for you about doing business in Nigeria as a woman?

    I haven’t noticed any thing per say.

    Ever received a loan or grant? 

    Nope. A couple of years ago, I spoke to people who wanted to invest in my business. But I wasn’t ready because I was in school. 

    What were they offering? 

    I did not go far in the conversations because I did not understand it. They wanted to invest their money and then collect a percentage every month. I wasn’t an expert at my work at that time so I didn’t want to take the money. Also, I am quite scared of failing. If it’s my money in it, I can pick up and start over but what happens when it’s someone else’s money? I will now be in debt. No, thank you. I decided to wait till I was more stable and knowledgeable. The right time for investment for me would be when I am done taking formulation classes for my work and I am confident of succeeding at this. 

    What does financial success mean to you?

    Being able to afford any and everything I want. That’s it.

    How do you decide on the Price of your products? 

    I decide based on how much I spend on each product. When I need to make a certain product, I calculate everything I need to make that product, including the bottles or containers required. The total helps me decide how much each bottle should cost. Also the proposed profit after deducting the cost price helps me decide. 

    What’s the average cost of your product?

    N3500

    What would you say about doing business in Nigeria?

    It’s stressful. I hope things can get better. I hope the Government stops putting pressure on entrepreneurs. I don’t know what they want to gain but they need to calm down.

    What’s the biggest challenge doing business here? 

    Ease of logistics is a major challenge. Also getting loans. I haven’t applied yet but I have seen the process. It’s quite tedious. 

    Financial advice you wish you knew before starting your business. 

    Pay yourself a salary. I thought salary payment was only for 9 to 5 people. I wish someone told me that. I would have planned better. I wish someone gave me a talk on how to handle money, savings, investment, etc. I still wish someone would though.

    What’s your favourite quote about money?

    Best revenge is your paper by Beyonce.

  • #TheAlphabetMafia: Finding Sexuality At 7, And The Futility Of Praying The Gay Away

    #TheAlphabetMafia: Finding Sexuality At 7, And The Futility Of Praying The Gay Away

    The Alphabet Mafia is a weekly series dedicated to the queers of Africa, coming out every Sunday. The series intends to show that the lives of queer people are just as complex as everyone else’s. Or just as basic. 


    What is your sexuality?

    Lesbian

    How old are you?

    18

    What are your pronouns?

    She/her

    Can you tell me your earliest memory of being a lesbian? 

    Hm. I had sex with a girl when I was 7. She was almost my age but younger. 

    Interesting. How old was she?

    Probably 5. 

    Go on…

    We tribbed that day and we continued to do it after school… for like a week. Don’t blame us. Around that time, I was getting sexually abused so it made me hypersexual. We would do it during playtime. We would play mummy and daddy except she was mummy and I was mummy too. 

    I am sorry about the abuse. What made you and the girl stop? 

    During the children’s service one Sunday, the teacher said lesbianism was a sin. So, I stopped what I was doing with the girl and spent the most part of my life asking god for forgiveness. I kept praying the gay away. My parents never knew any of this though. 

    What was praying away the gay like?

    It was years of self-appointed prayer and fasting sessions. I erased my entire identity in the process. I immersed myself in what people call the word of God. I listened to preachers with a smile on my face and contempt in my heart. I was a scripture union girl throughout secondary school until I finished my first year in university.

    When did you stop praying away the gay?

    I met her and she encouraged me to take off the mask. We never talked about my sexuality but with time, I found that I had accepted myself. 

    Tell me about her.

    She was my best friend and we were in love. We had been bestfriends for three years. We had so much love between us that it became toxic. We did EVERYTHING together. We even displayed affection for each other in public. Sometimes when we were out, she would put her head on my lap while I stroked her hair. We had intimate moments like that but we never tried anything sexual. Just cuddling and stuff. We had boyfriends while we were together but I didn’t take it well when she fell in love with a guy she really wanted to be with and started prioritizing him over me. It was very toxic for both of us. 

    When you say toxic, what do you mean?

    It’s complicated. We had too many issues. We were hurting each other.

    How did it end? 

    It was really painful. We had issues. I was jealous of her boyfriend. Communication between us dwindled because she had to be with him and all. I was really in love with her but she got tired and started ghosting me, until she eventually blocked me. I was devastated but I held on. One day, I was worried sick because she didn’t reply to my messages or pick my calls. I couldn’t even eat. I was on my way to find her at her place when she called me. I told her I had been worried and she said she was fine. After the call, I got back to my room and broke down behind the door muttering ‘she knows how to call. She just didn’t want to talk to you’ and that was it for me. I stopped messaging her, visiting her and calling her. Three years of friendship ended just like that. She didn’t call me after that, neither did I. We went back to being acquaintances. My family members couldn’t believe it but everyone is happy for the growth. Some people say that we had too much love between us. Even my parents were shocked but one thing was clear to me: I had done enough. It was toxic and I am never going to tolerate such behaviour from anyone or subject anyone’s child to such. I was done with it and I needed to be better. I sought therapy shortly after because of it and for other reasons. That whole relationship was tough but it taught me so much and I GREW. We only do healthy stuff in this house now.

    What does toxic behaviour mean to you?

    No healthy boundaries. Manipulation and gaslighting. A lack of regard for mental health. Giving and receiving the barest minimum in exchange for companionship. Obsessive or possessive behavior over someone, etc.

    What do you wish you knew before that relationship that you know now? 

    There are so many things I wish I knew.

    1.Knowing and loving yourself should come first before starting any kind of relationship with people, be it friendship, romantic, casual or business. 

    2. Explicitly tell people what you want from them from the beginning. Do you want a friendship? State it. A romantic relationship? Say it. 

    3. Choose yourself first. Yes, be selfish. Don’t jeopardize your mental health just to keep someone close. 

    4. Give people space. They can mean the whole world to you but give them some space. Let people breathe away from you.

    5. Healthy love is so important. I didn’t grow up in a healthy environment so when our relationship was just starting, my feelings were all over the place. It was just bad. She was as bad to me as I was to her. A good example would be one time we had a fight. I pushed her nose and she pulled my hair, and broke her mirror in anger. We were both crying. Did we break up then? No. I treated her wounds and picked up the shards of glass. We ended up hugging each other amidst sniffles and watching anime together on the bed. 

    Hmmm. Let’s talk about something light, like your first crush.

    Let’s call her A. We became friends when we were 4. We stopped being friends at 7. I really liked her. I liked her so much that I went to the mosque with her even though I was a Christian. 

    Your first kiss?

    Yes, in 2018, with a guy I was dating. It was sloppy and bad. He felt like he did something though but I hated the kiss. I felt like I was kissing a fish. Cold, wet and sloppy.

    How deep in the closet are you? 

    Not that deep to be honest. I am out to all my friends and on my Twitter too. I am out to a cousin as well. I have been hinting at it in front of my family too. Everyone I have come out to has shown me a lot of support. More than 10 people that I relate with personally actually know— I stopped talking to a lot of people even though I’m kind of in the spotlight at  school. 

    How did you learn what you know about love, relationships?

    By getting into one. I learnt by experience. My mother has been asking for a husband since I was 15(she has stopped now though). I didn’t know much about relationships but I watched people around me and I started discovering things for myself. I didn’t see love in my parent’s relationship either. What I saw was the patriarchy and gender roles but they claim it’s love. I had to define love for myself, by myself.

    If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?

    I’d change my parents or birth country. I would pick really supportive, understanding parents who have Canadian passports. Lol.

    What’s one thing you’ve never done that you’d love to do?

    Leave Nigeria. Have Queer sex as an adult.

  • Money Flow #001: The Entrepreneur Still Looking Up To God

    Money Flow #001: The Entrepreneur Still Looking Up To God

    Money Flow is a series intended to understand how entrepreneurs within Africa interact with money and how it affects the health of their businesses.  


    Tell me a bit about your business 

    My company is basically an online food production and delivery service. I make and deliver food within Lagos. 

    For how long now?

    Three years.

    What’s your financial background like?

    My dad is a civil servant. We were not poor but no excesses. I don’t consider myself rich, not even close. My parents paid for all my expenses while I was in school. At a point when I started making a small change, I told my dad to stop and he scolded me. His words were ‘it’s my responsibility to take care of you till you graduate, after that you can sort yourself’. I didn’t have any jobs in school, but I interned at a couple of places and had a few gigs here and there. Plus my fish farm started generating revenue when I was in 300level. 

    When did the fish farm come in? 

    I started the fish farm when I was in 200 level with proceeds from my gig and selling cold drinks in hostels at a N50 markup. 

    What kind of gigs? 

    Retail, software, middleman-ism. 

    What is the fish farming business like?

    I raised catfish, bought them as fingerlings and grew them to maturity before selling them off. The whole process took 3-6months. 

    What is your history with entrepreneurship?

    I have a long history of entrepreneurship. I have been doing gigs since I was sixteen. My first gig didn’t turn out nicely. The next one came when I was seventeen. I did software with some guys. That was my first million. 

    Tell me about the software. 

    It was a school management portal for parents and teachers.  We deployed it in a school and they paid per student. 

    Absolutely bonkers. lol

    Afterward, I ventured into agriculture, tech, and then food. 

    How much did you have at the start of the business

    My current business is started with zero. I leveraged what I already had in terms of skills. 

    What kind of skills are we talking about?

    Programming skills. I was good with C# and Database Administration. I also dabbled a bit in Java

    Okay. Go on…

    The business is web-based. I built the first version to a certain degree. I was getting commission off sales through the website. My initial cost was hosting and getting a  domain name. I didn’t have any other start-up costs. My entire business was based on leveraging other people’s startup costs to make a little margin. We grew gradually to where we are now. 

    How do you decide on the pricing of your product?

    This is more complex. Because we are a production-based model and we have multiple facets of production and delivery so our pricing model starts from top-down. Also, we are in a competitive industry. In the early days, I did a survey of people with similar businesses and took note of what they were charging. Then I did backward integration.

    Can you break down what backward integration means? 

    Sort of like starting at the end point and working backwards to see what makes up that end point. Like instead of buying eggs at retail, you start a poultry or get supply at wholesale.

    Okay go on. 

    I wanted X amount margin and great quality as well. I split 100% into part. The 100% being  the amount I was going to charge for my products. Production cost is X, staffing cost is Y, rent is Z, profit is A. Over time I have tweaked that according to economic realities. I ask myself if the business can afford to spend 20% of its revenue on staffing or 50% on production cost so this forces me to look for alternatives to secure the things we need.

    This also includes shipping from out of state just to keep the quality strong and cost low. After a point, I stopped looking at the competition and more at the quality of the product. I ask myself what is the best quality I can give at this price point. As a rule of thumb, I always make sure I have 30 to 45% profit margin on all of our products

    How do you deal with the competition?

    By staying innovative, avoiding stagnancy. 

    Do you have a financial advisor?

    I have mentors I run to when I am about to make a financial decision. Though they are not strictly financial advisors, I tell them my plans. They grill me on the reason for the expense and make sure there is a direct path from that decision to profit. 

    Have you ever taken a loan? 

    Yes, I have. 

    How did it go? Would you advise entrepreneurs to take loans?

    It depends. I would advise them to never to take loans for capital expenses, only operational ones. Also, only when you’re dead sure of your margins. 

    For example: taking a loan to buy equipment doesn’t make sense but taking a loan to buy raw materials does. Now, even when you take a loan to buy raw materials, the interest rate on the loan should never be more than 30-40% of your expected profit margin. Though, this is for production-based businesses. I can’t say much for retail businesses.  

    What’s the biggest challenge about doing business in Nigeria?

    Doing business in Nigeria is tough, very tough, you’re either a shark, or leeching. The Biggest challenge for me, is the amount of funds required and the difficulty in raising those funds, because you’re providing everything you need for yourself, from power to security.

    What financial advice do you wish you knew at the start of the business?

    When I first started this business, I put every other person’s financial well-being before mine. That means that I paid everyone else before I paid myself. It might sound noble but the problem with that is that when you don’t have a strict pay yourself first policy, what ends up happening is that your target subconsciously is every other person’s salary and you forgot yours.

    When you have paid everyone else and you don’t have funds, you start to dip into company funds to cover expenses and that is how people go bankrupt. The financial advice I wish I had at the beginning of this journey is pay myself first – responsibly, of course, and then pay people as you need them. That way attach the value to their contribution to your business and you can watch the value grow and unfortunate; id is not start doing this until a few years ago. 

    I have deliverables as well – Key performance indicators and when I meet those targets I deserve my pay.

    Secondly, never owe your staff. 

    Thirdly, never over promise your staff in terms of compensation. It’s better to come clean to say with our current projections,  this is how much we can but we are hoping with your addition to the team, we make a lot more and we will subsequently increase your salary and you have to keep to your word. If the revenue is growing as a result of certain input, you have to compensate accordingly. 

    Fourthly, when hiring, you need to be able to tie a direct path to revenue. From each hire So you are not just hiring people to reduce the workload from you but hiring people to generate more revenue. It could be customer service, technology, operations but all hire should be tied to revenue.

  • 10 Productivity Tips For Creative Entrepreneurs

    10 Productivity Tips For Creative Entrepreneurs

    Creative entrepreneurs are people who use their creative skills to earn a living. They are also referred to as freelancers. Their work experience does not fit into the 9-5 schedule of traditional working experience. As a creative entrepreneur, efficient use of time is pertinent. It is common to find yourself derailing from designated tasks to check the latest update on the trending gist on twitter. This behavior can keep you postponing starting or finishing tasks. Appropriate management of time is the key to increased productivity.

    Here is a list of things that can help you maximize your time:

    Make Lists

    To get a great start on your day, it’s best to list out the tasks you want to complete that day and their specified deadlines. A great way to do this is the 3-2-1 method. It’s designed as a priority list. You list the three of the most important things you need to do and then two less important ones followed by the least important task. This will help you give attention to what needs attention. To paraphrase Yasmin Belo-Osagie, to-do lists are wishes without deadlines. When you find yourself scrolling on Instagram, your deadline cautions you.  

    Make Weekly Goals

    At the start of a new year or month, it considered healthy to set goals. Weekly goals are just as effective. Each week, set a goal to be met. Goals should be SMART. Specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound. It could be your goal for the year broken down into action points. Goals are a sure way to ensure productivity when done right.

    Keep A Small Notebook

    A small notebook works magic for ideas. Creative entrepreneurs tend to chase ideas as soon as they think of them. This leads to abandoning tasks. It is helpful to jot down ideas as they come. Asides being able to complete your initial task, the idea has room to blossom and become something better. Notes can also be downloaded on your mobile device.

    Set A Time And Space For Working

    It goes without saying that creative entrepreneurs lack the structure that a 9-5 provides, hence the urge to lazy around is much more. Carve out a specific time and place for your work and watch yourself complete tasks. Ensure you have had breakfast before work time and remove all distractions.

    Declutter

    Take account of the essentials you need to work and keep them close. Other things should be kept aside. A messy workspace sends stress signals to your mind. Decluttering should be done either before work time or after time to save energy. Having a table full of stuff can distract your mind from staying focused on the task ahead.  

    Take Breaks During Bursts Of Work

    It has been scientifically proven that breaks during work hours help to increase productivity. Sleep is for the dead is a sentence that celebrates overworking with minimal rest time. The human body requires rest and neglect leads to fatigue and thus slowing down work time. Attention increases when you return to your workspace after a break. One way to take breaks is the Pomodoro technique where you take five-minute breaks, every twenty-five minutes.

    Make Tasks Mobile-Friendly

    Sometimes, restricting yourself to working on a laptop or pen and paper can steal work hours from you. Being able to complete tasks on your phone can help speed the process.

    Make Google Calendar Your Friend.

    If you tend to procrastinate or forget tasks, Google calendar is there for you. You can set up a reminder for just about anything. Also, you can share your calendar with colleagues you are working on projects with or accountability partners.

    Abandon Tasks That Waste Your Time

    If you find that you are spending too much time on a task, it’s okay to leave it to focus on something else.

    Do One Thing At A Time

    It might be attractive to attempt to complete multiple tasks at once but it is counterproductive to multitask. In fact, it takes longer to complete a task when your mind keeps jumping from task to task.

  • Emotional intelligence in the workplace

    Emotional intelligence in the workplace

    Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify emotions within yourself and in others. It is being able to detect emotions such as sadness, hurt, fear, etc, and acting appropriately.

    We all know that colleague that is passive-aggressive, offers terse closed responses to open-ended questions, murmurs side comments aimed to tease people. They never take responsibility for their actions–they tend to point fingers at everyone else. They are never at fault.

    They have trouble connecting during team collaborative efforts and believe they’re always right and never take heed to another’s word. Such people are described as emotionally dumb. While intellectual intelligence is a measure of your ability to process information, emotional intelligence is your ability to process emotions. Emotional intelligence, unlike intellectual intelligence, is learned and its mastery requires a great deal of emotional labor. You need to understand your own feelings to be able to digest others.

    A forum report ‘The Future of Jobs’ conducted by the World Economic Forum in 2016 predicted that by 2020, emotional intelligence would be among the top 10 most required skills for jobs. According to Forbes, this ability will be important as long as there are humans in the workforce since it impacts every interaction we have with one another. After reading an article written by John Mayer and Peter Salovey about the concept of Emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman, an American psychologist, and science journalist, hooked on the idea that there are other ingredients to success as opposed to the sole IQ, conducted more research and wrote a book titled Emotional Intelligence: Why it Matters More than IQ. In it, he defined emotional intelligence according to five categories.

    Self-awareness

    The ability to know one’s self; to understand one’s moods, motivations, abilities, and limitations. Self-awareness is knowing how things affect you. A person that self-aware is not only able to detect why their mood has turned sour but is able to manage in a way that does not infer with the general atmosphere. Self Awareness also includes being able to perceive what others think about you. You are able to read the reactions of others to decipher how they see you and act accordingly. An emotionally intelligent person should be able to acknowledge their mistakes and their countereffects. They are able to do introspective reflections and make adjustments where needed.

    Self-regulation

    This is the ability to control impulses, express one’s self appropriately, and think before acting. Emotions are signals from our brain to tell us to pay attention to something. Self regulation involves using that information in a measured manner.
    An emotional mature person is able to adapt to change and able to respond approipratetly to another person’s irrational behavior. They are able to keep to their word and meet up with designated deadlines.

    Social skills

    These include being able to make jokes, catch on sarcasm, build and maintain friendships. In other words, It means being able to manage people with minimal conflict. A person with good social skills should be able to communicate properly, respect people’s time and is able to solve conflict using negotiation or persuasion where it is needed.

    Motivation

    Being emotionally intelligent also includes being able to the ability to push one’s self towards learning and self-development despite the odds against them. An emotionally mature person is able to start and complete tasks as well as form or drop habits.

    Empathy

    A key part of being emotionally intelligent is empathy. It involves seeing how things affect people and responding adequately to that. Empathy can only be attained when self-awareness is attained. An emotionally mature person should be able to perceive other emotions, anticipate reactions from others, understand why people act the way they do and make room for it. They should also be able to care about another person’s worries and joys. Empathy goes beyond interpersonal communications.


    A key indicator of emotional unintelligence is miscommunication. Conversations are strained and messages are often misconstrued during the course of communication. The receiver and the message are two important elements of communication. If your message is misinterpreted or the receiver does not understand your message then you have failed as a sender in the communication equation. It is a personal duty to ensure that the things you utter, especially in the workplace where communication is important for ease of labor, are interpreted as you intend. Think of your words as a brand slogan. Slogans are meant to sell the brand’s efficiency. A good brand studies its audience and comes up with a clear message that serves them. So also in interpersonal relations.

    As technology advances and jobs diversify, emotional intelligence becomes more required within the workplace. An emotionally intelligent person is a good communicator, analyst, team player and an asset to today’s company.

  • African Artists being featured at Coachella 2020

    African Artists being featured at Coachella 2020

    Coachella Valley Music and Arts Festival known for vibrant and monumental performances is ready for another year to make history. In 2018, Beyonce headlined the event with a performance that lasted 105 minutes which afterwards, went on to live a life of its own.

    This year, the event will be headlined by Frank Ocean, Travis Scott, and American rock band, Rage Against the Machine. African artists, home and away would also grace Coachella with their performances alongside a number of international artists.

    Seun Kuti, Koffee, Princess Nokia, Sampa the Great, Aya Nakamura, Masego are included in this year’s lineup amongst other artists like Ari Lennox, Summer Walker, Lil Uzi Vert, FKA Twigs and many others.

    Seun Kuti, who performed at Coachella in 2012, will be returning this year with his band, Egypt 80 as the only Nigerian artist, as he was when he performed at the event 8 years ago. He posted about the event on his page.

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B62aIGLghtU/?igshid=1lmhwdxhqqak

    Koffee will be making her debut performance at the event. Last year, she released an EP called ‘Rapture’ which went on to grab a Grammy nomination. It was also number 1 on the Billboard’s Reggae Album Chart and on iTunes Reggae Chart. Fellow Jamaican artist, Masego, will also be performing at the event.

    DJ Black Coffee, who regularly performs major music events was at the last Coachella with his house music vibes and would also be headlining the ULTRA South Africa this year for the first time ever.

    French-Malian pop singer Aya Nakamura, will be performing alongside Afro-Nuyorican MC, Princess Nokia who wowed the audience last year with her performance at Coachella. Australian-Zambian rapper, Sampa the Great and British-Nigerian rapper Dave were also listed as part of the event’s lineup this year.

    Coachella has announced that tickets from the first weekend of the event have already sold out, even though more details and timing are yet to be released. You can buy tickets and view the complete lineup of artists here .

  • Teni and Niniola: Society and Sister Ties

    Teni and Niniola: Society and Sister Ties

    It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences. – Audre Lorde

    One of my earliest memories of sisterhood in pop culture was the relationship between Tia and Tamera Mowry. Identical twin sisters who featured in American movies and sitcoms together, they wore similar clothes, and behaved alike on screen.

    I watched them grow from Sister, Sister to Twitches. Their characters were scheming teenage girls, who wear soft makeup and helped each other out of trouble in each episode. As a child with two brothers, all I wanted was a sister to plot with. 

    Teni and Niniola

    There are some places in the world where only one daughter of the family can inherit property from deceased parents. Even when women manage a success story, there is a scarcity concept that dictates that only one woman at a time gets to bask in the spotlight. As time passes, patriarchy continues to establish itself as a common enemy of all kinds of women all over the world.

    Though in pop culture today, successful female characters are rarely depicted as stern women who have to deny themselves pleasure, the reality remains that successful women are often pitted against each other in the media. This tactic designed to divide and conquer by the patriarchy respects not even blood bonds.

    Take Beyonce and Solange for instance, there are articles, think pieces, essays about their relationship. Although their music genres differ and diversify, whenever either of them drops an album, or goes on tour, the impact of their projects are measured against each other.

    The same disservice is done to American professional tennis players, Venus and Serena Williams. This competition is also extended to Nigerian music industry where, sensational sisters, Teni and Niniola co-create. 

    Niniola’s career garnered a major boost when her single Ibadi was released in 2014, Teni’s followed shortly after in 2016 after her song Amen was released. So far, neither of them have featured on the other’s album. Like Beyonce and Solange, their music is inherently different.

    Niniola describes her music as Afro-house, a blend of Afro-beats and House music and refers to Angelique Kidjo as her inspirations. Teni’s music, on the other hand has been described as local hip hop, with King Sunny Ade as her major inspiration. 

    Their sense of style also differs. Niniola’s fashion style can be likened to a subtle aversion from the conventional style of a woman because it dares to be different. Teni, however, is nothing like the conventional female artist. Her style has evolved into an androgynous athleisure bordering on masculinity. The only thing their brands have in common is that they combine english with Yoruba to make melodious music. 

    Despite excelling in their distinct genres, the Nigerian media still attempts to create competition between them. In an interview by The Punch, Teni was asked if she feels pressure to succeed as her sister is doing well. To which Teni replied, ‘I don’t feel any pressure. I don’t care or think of what anyone says’. In a similar interview by the same news agency, Niniola was asked how she handles being competitors with Teni. She replied curtly, ‘We are first sisters before any other thing’. 

    This myth that only one woman at a time deserves fame has been identified by feminists, like Audre Lorde and Mona Eltahaway, as one of the many ways the patriarchy restricts women. It leads women to believe that there is only one spot for women in the limelight.

    This extends outside biological sister bonds to societal bonds. It’s hard to miss Twitter polls asking users who the more beautiful woman is, who the better singer is, even asking who the better mother is. 

    It is important for women to refuse this hierarchy. This is why representation in the media is important. More stories where women, sisters or not, co-exist in the limelight and even cross-promote each other should rule the media.

    A fine example of this would be the recently concluded Femme Africa event. Femme was created by Ayomide Dokunmu, to facilitate community amongst women in the African creative industry. On the 13th October, Lady Donli, Ezi Emela, Tems, and Princess Okoh sang the night away to the delight of the audience despite several media tactics to foster animosity between them. Another would be the Wine, Whine and Whine event which took on the 30th of November 2019, where Lagos women gathered to drink, dance and discuss issues particular to them. 

    However, while sisterhood is important and should be encouraged and celebrated, it is also healthy for women, female artistes to able to create within the bubble of individuality. Audre Lorde emphasized the importance of oneness as woman in Sister Outsider saying ‘When we define ourselves, when I define myself, the place in which I am like you and the place in which I am not like you, I’m not excluding you from the joining – I’m broadening the joining.’

    Here’s to a world where women can just be.